CONSISTENCY AND COMMITMENT WITH SEUNFUNMI OKUNTOLA

A lot of times, a hard task may look like a challenge from a far. The closer you get, the more you realize it is probably not worth your time and effort but the fact is this; "Its all about perspective". It all lies in what you choose to view as a challenge and what you understand to be impossible. Many of us have fallen into the procrastination trap too many times when it comes to doing the more challenging things every day. Its time to level up our game and commit to our goals every single day.

Here is Seunfunmi Okuntola, she will be sharing her story on consistency and commitment.

Oluwaseunfunmi Okuntola.

Hi there! My name is Oluwaseunfunmi,

Over the past year, I would say that this has been the toughest year for me, not 2020 particularly but from last year. The past one year and a couple of months has been crazy; I had so many things happening and I know that for a very long period, I wasn't in the right mental, emotional and physical space because I have been in and out of emotional drama with people, not romantically but my relationship with people. I had to go through an accident that changed a lot for me. Mentally, everything was happening between me changing jobs, moving into a new place; living alone and going back. Basically, the back and forth was a lot and that destabilized me. Honestly, I didn't know, when these things happen to you, they unannouncedly have an effect through a gradual process. You feel hurt today and overtime if you don't talk about it or address it, it turns into something else - leading to trust issues and less commitment. These were the things I developed at that time, I wasn't really disciplined at anything anymore, I wasn't disciplined with myself, I wasn't committed to people anymore. I knew these things were happening but there was not much I could do because I needed to come out of that space.

One of the things I was intentional about doing this year was picking an easy task, a task that doesn't involve other people and doing it consistently everyday. I read a book titled "First Things First", it addressed consistency, discipline etc. One of the things that I learnt was you'd have to prove to yourself that you can be disciplined so that others can perceive you that way. If you are going to be a dependable person, you have to prove it not wish it. A lot of times we say good stuffs about ourselves when we know we're not these things but we say them because we wish to be perceived that way. I decided to pick easy tasks like laying my bed every day, going for a run every morning (it was compulsory). These tasks has helped me create a form of awareness about myself that it doesn't get easy some days because I could be tired, lazy or sick but being able to rise above all these regardless is framing my mind, I'm starting to build myself back up and prove to myself that if I need to get it done, I will get it done. Therefore, if someone needs me to handle something, they can be sure that I will handle it because I am this kind of person. 

I'm the type who personally do not believe that people are terrible, lazy and all that, they just need to build it; It's hard but you need to build it. Looking at it from the angle of exercise, when you want a desired body, it's not by going to the gym once, it's a continuous process. In terms of spiritual growth, I also had issues as with every other area of my life and one of the things I was intentional about regardless is being in the right space. So, there's a tendency for you to want to exclude yourself from certain gatherings, there's a tendency for you not to want to be involved in certain things or change your friends but one thing i knew for sure was that i wasn't leaving that space. I made sure that regardless of anything, I showed up for bible study.  I may not have been mentally there but I made it a duty to be part of it. Even if it's church service and my body isn't in its right frame, I still stay because there's something about staying in the place you want to be, in your desired place. It's also important because when you fall and somehow you're able to rise again, you need to be sure that you're stepping into a place that is safe and you will not loose so much touch from that space.

I'm taking everything step by step, proving to myself that I can do it. If it means me praying, I set a time of the day to pray regardless of how I feel (sleepy, hungry or whatsoever). This has been helping a lot and later, you find out that it's easier overtime. There will still be challenges but it's easier to do these things overtime without actually stressing over them, you just fund yourself doing it regardless of how you feel.

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Part of getting results in whatever you want is building in a commitment to pick yourself up and start again should set back or disaster arises. Most importantly, learning to understand the importance of what you're trying to achieve and placing it above everything else. Also make sure you don’t put yourself to blame when things don’t go right.  Your self esteem/self image is not directly linked to any one project, any one target, or any one goal. Your self respect and esteem is linked to your ability to deal with things as they happen in life. Finding solutions to problems is important, but the process is also important.

Get committed to positive results while consistently taking actions that moves you closer to your desired goals.

Thank You!

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