Valentine's day is in 2 days and the humans in a relationship are super excited and are most likely not going to take it easy on the singles. It's been a tough few days for the single folks; If you have a single friend, please, check on them and send them money.
Valentine's day is certainly not really a favourite day for singles because of the tension coming from all angles. It’s that one special day a year in which singles are painfully reminded that they may very well die alone - cruel! Unfortunately, in our romance and sex-saturated culture, every day reminds you of that. However, the church hasn’t offered much alternatives. There’s far too much “Jesus is my boyfriend” or “I’m dating Jesus” type of songs and teachings that trivializes the kind of intimacy that can exist between God and humanity thereby silencing the deeper pain of loneliness and disappointment that singles sometimes feel. Amazingly, this year's Valentine's day falls on a Sunday. Hallelujah? Amen! For now, I have zero plans but 2 days is enough to plan and put something together. But just in case you see me acting weird, this is how I'm planning to be on Sunday.
Have no idea how you can spend the day as a single? I have a few suggestions for you.
But yourself a gift
However, Valentine's day is all about showing love. How about you show yourself some love even if you have no one to share the day with. Buy yourself a gift if you can. If you can't, at least, be nice to yourself. Do not overthink being single. Singleness is beautiful, savour and enjoy it. You are a spec, don't even think anything less.
Find someone if you can
Also, this period, people out there are looking for who to share their lives with and are open to give love a chance. If you are emotionally open, why not take the risk? It's funny how sometimes, we singles are our own worst enemy. Stop hiding, I'm talking to you. Take the risk if you are open to it and stop beating yourself up. You are looking for God to do something about your singleness when you know the answer is right before your very eyes. Now it's up to you to do something.
Write/Record and share the day with people
You can write yourself a letter, if you have two e-mails, you can schedule a mail to yourself on Valentine's day. In fact, you can write a letter to Jesus. If you are lazy at writing, you can make a recording. Talk about yourself and how amazing you think you are. Since it's on a Sunday, get to spend time with your fellow single friends who do not have plans for the day. If you already have plans and can accommodate one or two more people, ask your friends so they don't get bored; just spend the day with them. If you do not yet have your community yet, spend the day with your family members if possible. Also, God never gets too busy for you, you can set a date with him and spend time with him. He's the surest Valentine that one can ever have.
Introspect
If you are yet to, why not use this period to write out the list of things you want in your husband/wife? No, it's not insane. Try it! Make a reasonable list including your negotiables and non-negotiables. Make it realistic, come to terms with what you want in your (wo)man. Examine your emotional quotient and know where you fall short - preparing yourself ahead for THE ONE.
Most importantly, know that God above all is the giver of the greatest love, let him satisfy you. True love isn't all about the emotion. Emotion do not explain what love is because it weighs more than it. As beautiful as the idea of Valentine's day is, my problem is why some people all of a sudden would become lovely to their partners for a few days and after the end of the euphoria of Valentine, they go back to who they really are. Love is commitment, Love is choosing to be there even when you don't get the butterflies anymore. Love is absolutely beyond Valentine's day. Therefore, enjoy it and make it worthwhile in a ways that's pleasing to God.
Happy Valentine's Day(in advance)!❤❤
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